When the dust settles and life gets back to normal, you will find yourself with thoughts of dating. You may miss the companionship of the opposite sex and we all know that developing a new relationship means dating.
If you jump back in with both feet you may find that dating isn’t like “riding a bike.” If it’s been a while since you have dated you are going to need to fine tune those old dating skills a bit. Dating after divorce is a daunting experience. So, I’ve put together some tips on how to help you get back into the dating game and enjoy your new found freedom.
- Leave the details of your divorce at home.
Nothing is more unattractive than prattling on and on about the problems in your past relationship. The subject is bound to come up and when it does keep it brief and focus your attention on your date and having a good time in that moment. You can be open and honest with your date without spilling your guts.
- Be yourself.
Relax and let the real you shine. Dating is about getting to know the other person. Finding out if that person has traits we like and whether or not we care for a second date. Keep in mind that your date...read more about dating after divorce
From: Charles D. Jamieson
Our family law firm has just completed its yearly round of resolving holiday visitation disputes. Preplanning will often prevent disputes over visitation among divorced parents or parents who are separated.
The following are some suggestions to minimize conflict and maximize visitation.
- At the beginning of each year, plan out vacations you wish to take around the major holidays such as spring break, summer, Thanksgiving, Hanukkah andChristmas.
- Each parent may have their own particular individual days they wish to see their children. Those days should also be included in the planning.
- When planning Holiday visitation, individuals who are divorced should consult their settlement agreement or final judgment of divorce or separation in order to make sure that they understand clearly the contact schedule for which they have been provided. In addition, those individuals should carefully note any pre-notice time, which said agreement or orders require.
- Once your planning has been completed, you should communicate in writing, outlining your request for contact/visitation for the upcoming year. If contact/visitation is provided for in a specific settlement agreement or court order, you should...read more about Holiday visitation
You probably didn’t expect to be divorced or separated on Thanksgiving at this time in your life. You probably feel like saying, “Gee, thanks for another #@*!! personal growth experience.” Well, instead of staying at home feeling sorry for yourself and ordering pizza for Thanksgiving, here are some ideas to help you make it through the long holiday weekend.
The first thing you have to do is get into action. Move your body and the head will follow. Go for a walk or a jog. Get to the gym and start losing that marriage fat. Start a dance class or take tennis lessons. Any activity is good that will get you moving. Don’t think about it. Just do it. Force yourself.
The next thing to do is build a support network. This can be your friends, relatives, religious leader, neighbor or therapist. Join a support group. Participate in online support groups. It may seem to you that you are the only person in the world going through a divorce, but you are not alone.
Now, get outside of your troubles. Find someone with problems bigger than yours and help them. Volunteer to feed the homeless for Thanksgiving. Visit a nursing home or a hospital.
Invite some friends over for a potluck supper. Everything is attitude. Stay positive and strong and have a great Thanksgiving. Leave a comment if you have an activity or idea that helped you survive Thanksgiving when going through a divorce.
